this short message on MSN from someone ratherly close to me, have got me curious. what was it to tell me about?
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hello peeps! been awhile i didnt update anything on this blog. depsite having my own, sometimes i just have nothing to talk about. i’ve been watching, and been approving some comments that went straight to the spam inbox. afterall, im just the co-writer and Zul have more interesting stories to talked about 
i’ve been out and about. and busy with work, on the other hand. though it didnt stop me from going abroad for few days.. just for some personal leisure. out there, with a friend of mine, young guys or men, cant stop making a hit on us. they gave us free drinks, phone numbers, dinner treats and so on. as if we’re the most available hot single ladies.
back home, no such thing will ever happen. seriously, what happen here? are they mostly either married, very very unavailable or just plain… no guts to do so?
probably just they way they did it doesn’t impress me at all..
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January 3, 2009 at 10:29 pm
Droplets
Hello there ..I must agree with you..Exactly what happen to our men? That thought did ever occur in my mind…Hehe..Initially I thought men are all the same after all they come from mars rite? but hey..i’ve changed my mind..ever since i met men here ( the place where i currently study) surely they are different in trying to befriend or flirt with you and sometimes i laugh at myself with efforts being made..They are not fear of rejections and indeed admire their courage though..Huh.. if only they r locals..Hardly i get these back home..i mite be speculative but just wanna share my point of view in relation to “what happen to men back home?” Case studies would help & verify (kidding ya!) hehe..Cheers…
January 4, 2009 at 4:56 am
EviL_Lady
Maybe its because, your looks appeal to outsiders, but back home u r a plain jane?
January 4, 2009 at 6:39 pm
bittersweet13
hey you Ms/Mrs EviL_Lady;
u jealous of her?
did she ever do anything wrong to you,girl?
January 4, 2009 at 6:58 pm
fizz
Yeaa.. its their courage and there are differences if they’re attracted to be your friend and just to flirt with you. they’ll become the most gentlemen and polite person you’ll ever met – thou u knew him just for few mins! it made you feel so special – boosting off your slef-esteem.
enjoy your time main mata out there, Droplets! hehehe balik sini, everything is taken SERIOUSLY!
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thanks for you honest opinion, EviL_Lady. maybe you never experienced such thing neither here and out there, or maybe you never pay attention to what men do to you. I dont think so im a plain jane, thou. you dont know me so i excerp that. i think Zul can do you a favor to describe every inch of me. so, stay tune!
afterall, this post is all about being curious!
January 4, 2009 at 7:22 pm
Evil_Lady
bittersweet13: My comment was not directed to Ms Droplets. I was responding to the post.
Ms_Droplets: Thanks for the bday gift dear and the poem!
fizz: Thank u for realising it was an honest opinion, as I do not know how u look like (unlike Ms_Droplets, she’s ma housemate wah and lemme tell ya, she pull gorgeous Arab guys here heheheh).
So fizz,if u r gorgeous, then I believe it is juz that MOST local guys fear rejection or they have low self-esteem. I wonder what would ZUL do if he saw a girl that makes him weak in the knees?
January 4, 2009 at 9:33 pm
Droplets
Hiya ppl..it’s not look that matters here..to me, overall , personality counts..but dun get ovr excited as yet..the BOTTOM LINE is the curiosity of the fizz’s story about men back home..Undeniably men back home wud have been much better if only they could unleash their potential or appropriate ‘bakat’ jus as the outsiders do..i believe they can..really..many factors need to be taken into a/c if u knw wat i mean..It’s ok i’m not offended, hahaha…am open to other people’s different perspectives..May not be at the same wavelength though but hey..wat da heck it’s much easier to gobble all this up and get on…LOL! curiosity still kills a cat! wink..wink..Cheerio..
January 5, 2009 at 12:19 am
Evie
fizz, could u list out, other than the ones u mentioned in the post, that u wud prefer local guys should do to woo girls. I’m being curious here. HONESTLY. thanx.
January 5, 2009 at 12:27 am
Zul Cintaislove
What would ZUL do if he saw a girl that makes him weak in the knees? Of course men would want to be with drop dead gorgeous beautiful women. I believe the same goes to women no? But then kalau muka lawa but ulah macam setan, fuck around here and there, whats the point? Yes Droplets is right, personality counts.
Maybe its true that some local guys fear rejection. For me, rejection is a risk men has to take. Want something? Then go for it. Otherwise, somebody else will.
I’m not sideing anyone here, I’m just basing on facts. I’m not going to describe every inch of Fizz, sorry dearest, that’s gonna be too detailed. Suffice to say that men are always after Fizzy, it’s just that they’re not the right ones for her.. yet!
Back to the question about what would I do if I see a girl that makes my legs weak. Of course I’d go woww. I’m surrounded by beautiful, pretty, hot, cute and sexy ladies around me, friends at work and outside work. But I prefer my cup of tea to be 1 sugar only, not too much. Diabetes kills! Plus friendship means more to me
p/s…laa I’m supposed to post a new scenario, esok saja lah
January 5, 2009 at 12:45 am
Droplets
Evil_Lady..u r welcumd..bah..say no more of me and the mat arabs..havent made org putih’s knees here weak as yet..I wish (NOT!!)..
January 5, 2009 at 3:32 am
Evie
Ms_Droplets: Thanx for the scrumptious nasi beriyani. U n the girls indeed made my b’day a memorable one. n
ZUL: weak in the knees nda jua semestinya orang atu lawa. I am sure not all guys go for the looks. Some go for the physical attributes, some go for their strong religious beliefs, some go for the girls yang real ie nda control ayu etc. I am glad that you fall under the personality category.
Good for you.
January 5, 2009 at 7:20 am
fizz
i dont think i ever start anything on looks, Droplets, but Evie aKa EviL_Lady kinda insisted and assuming someone she didn’t know is a plain jane, that is just rude. yes, this post is about men here.
if guys eyeing on someone with gorgeous look, that’s just the first sight thingy. more to come later.. and yes, personality as such.
I dont think so i know what i want guys do to me to impress me – its their own talent, so why should i discuss that? unless i disagree and made me or some other girls feel uncomfy.
Fear on rejection – people knows people here. maybe that’s one the factor nobody dare to flirt gently. because if they do, being rejected becomes one of the main topic people talk about, no? well, at least a ‘he’ have tried..
January 5, 2009 at 8:51 am
Evie
Whoaa fizz….I am truly SORRY if I push the wrong buttons. I certainly was not aiming to ruffle anyone’s feathers. I humbly apologise.
And when I asked about your ideas about things that local guys can do to impress girls, is so as to share ideas with the lads that might not have thought of ways to go about being impressive. Not all guys think the way we do. Their idea of being impressive to the ladies may not match with what we have in mind.
Once again fizz, I apologise for the earlier feedback. Have a nice day and I look fwd to your next posts!
January 5, 2009 at 8:54 am
smiley
why bruneian guys dont take chances?? haha because..
- they fear rejection
- they somehow think that their failed conquest will be printed on the front page of borneo bulletin, and that dj’s all over the country would talk about them in their talk shows.
- they think that their value would somehow go down just because they got rejected.
seriously guys out there!?!
you see someone who looks interesting to you??..then go over and say hi..be honest..say something like..’you look interesting and id like to know you better
‘..haha abit direct but hey..you miss 100% of the shots you dont take..right?? hehehe
January 5, 2009 at 9:07 am
Zul Cintaislove
Well said smiley. No harm in giving it a shot. Rejected? C’mon boys, fail once doesn’t mean we fail forever, there’s always plan B, C, D and so on. Winners never quit, quitters never win!
January 7, 2009 at 1:27 am
Ms Azzurri
I beg to differ. Some guys sini ada yg tarus2 lanja dpizahut or lanja drinks d cofezone/cofebean but yeah myb nt s much s d luar negeri lh x hehe
January 7, 2009 at 9:24 am
smiley
betul to zul!! winners never quit!! hahaha.. persistence is the key!! hahaha kalau kana reject 100th time oleh the same girl..cuba lagi!! mana tau the 101th time kana bagi chance ehehe
im interested to know though..honestly speaking..do girls find these random guys you barely know, yg lanja2 ani ’sweet’ and ‘heart-warming’…or creepy??
January 7, 2009 at 11:11 am
star-n-rainbow
oh yg randomly belanja girls, i don’t find them sweet… they’r just trying hard to get what they want… well some are baik hati and some are just “crocodile land”.
fizz is ryte, ppl knws ppl here.. social gossips are everywhere… brunei is just too damn small hehe banartah..i have a besfren and believe me she knows almost everyone when i asked randomly.. or maybe she is just too busy body jaga tepi kain org haha ;p
when u see some1 u like, theres no harm on approaching them. just talk politely and dun be annoyed. and juga dun push it. if u get the bad vibes, forget it and walk away. lepas tu, cuba lagi on different person. manalah tau itll work the next time. Not all guys can do that, ada yg pemalu, inda berani & too choosy. heyy lets talk abt guys who are choosy..shall we? hehe there are alot tu!! if u ask me, i can list out 10 guys! not that im gona mention who hehe
January 7, 2009 at 7:55 pm
fizz
i think buying girls drink would at least get an attention, duncha think? kirakan as a start lah. but klau smpai belanja makan.. ooo ~ that’s creepy tia.
UNLESS i’ve seen him somewhere and kinda know his name – BUT I should insist to belanja him on the next meeting (that’s on MY schedule, of course! hehehe…) and that’s how the dating progress started, i guess? no?
once a while, i dont think so its a big deal to do that…
guys can be choosy? baru ku tau eh… hehehe i thought the options are with girls.
January 7, 2009 at 8:14 pm
smiley
haha choosy guys?? hahaha i think theres around the same number of choosy girls out there as well. im my opinion, their level of ‘choosyness’ depends on their confidence level..haha if its high, then they want to go for the ones best for them..i mean..a guy could think, why should i go for the quiet ones when i like them loud…or another guy would think, why would i want a party girl if i really like them quiet ones..you know..personal taste i guess..
same as girl i suspect..a confident woman would wanna go out with someone who has the ciri2 that she likes most..right?? haha
back to the subject regarding brunei being gossipy..hehe if a friend of a friend said..that she knows a girl who said that this dude (who is currently courting you) is a straight up %#@$&..but he seems like an angel to you..would you take precautions (more than advisable)..or..just let it slideeeeee..
January 7, 2009 at 8:35 pm
Lucky in Love
Smiley, I’ve been in that situation before…and I chose to let it slide. Being with an ‘angelic guy’ made me felt like I was on cloud 9 all the time. He had such an irresistable charm that was powerful enough to make me choose to be ignorant of his past and the many bad stories I heard from reliable people.
Luckily I was not too blinded by love. I managed to knock some sense into my head that the relationship, sweet as it was, had to end. I would rather be with someone who may not be as romantic as him but only loves one woman.
January 8, 2009 at 3:32 am
izzy
unfortunately, im a hardcore cynic and unless that person is my 1st degree relatives or maybe my absolute bestest friend and know the guy personally, the validity of that story is always questionable. I also don’t have the patience to be in a guessing game so just asked him. To start, his reaction to your question can give you a clue…he may or may not have an explanation for the rumors. And if you were to ignore the story, what is your personal impression of the guy (other than like an angel)? If his some of his actions are dubious and there are some red flags then maybe that story has some truth.
Men in brunei buying us drinks certainly get my attention. Intriguing rare species in brunei…can go either way but I still like to know them;)
January 9, 2009 at 5:45 am
Droplets
Lucky in love, you’ve made the right move..u r lucky 2b out-of-love wif that ‘angelic guy’. To myself n ladies..Don’t get so carried away with super charmers..hehe..moderate charmer will do! Super-charmers are best actors.. reality bites! Luckily you are just in cloud 9 and not blown away by the wind..Cheerio..
January 9, 2009 at 10:28 pm
Ms Azzurri
Haha yup I think its creepy too ada yg tarus2 lnja makan ah but pernah terjadi lol
January 13, 2009 at 3:43 pm
BvlgariGal
Men who dare to do all dat wooing stuff r usually men dat are well experienced and they dun know u. Men abroad have more guts to do dat. Some simply becoz they juz wanna go for quick fun. If there’s a respond, there’s a big chance for a one-night-stand. They dun really bother your personality or looks at all. But in Brunei, I guess it’s the exposure and culture. It takes 2 to tango.
And besides, people seem to know other people, they’re probably related somehow..cuzins to their friends or ur frenz neighbours or this is that person’s/uncle/auntie’s son or daughter/office mate etc. You probably meet the same guy at some cuzin’s/relatives function /school/weddings/work meetings or same restaurant. You dun wanna lose face due to the rejection. Afterall Brunei is small, and you can probably know the background of the person in a split second.
But it’s cute when the guys juz approach ur table and talk wiv u, leaving their hp no on the receipt or on ur windscreen, door handler. Still have those coming…hhmmm….but they r either too young (below 16) or too old (above 40s) or already married ( with 5 kids or more)…Where r the young single ones?…
January 14, 2009 at 11:59 pm
smiley
leaving hp no on door handler? you mean..the car handle?? hahaha holy crap..thats freaky stuff!! hahaha..and them 16yrold kids are doing this?? haha..cute i guess..
speaking of this approaching thing..theres this underground community growing all around the world, where gurus teach hopeful lovable nerds how to become the next casanova..haha i dont know if you ladies heard about them..they’re called pick-up artists. quite interesting really, because i dont think its just about picking up girls, you know..more towards building social skills, and showcasing personality…and being more confident and be an all round better person..
but thats just my view..how bout you girls?